“Two Steps Behind”
2008
You might have heard people talking about how hard it is to maintain a sustainable relationship when it comes to distance. Some might just tell you that it’s only a myth, something that you can only find in movies sort of stuffs and it’s not practical nowadays to have a long distance relationship. I was never really involved in long distance relationships before and to have a say on this might be a little bit awkward to me. I am not saying that I don’t believe in it because to say that I’ve seen some of my friends made it through the rain. So, it would not be something that I would like to call a myth either. It will happen when it happen.
Long distance relationships require a special willingness and understanding that can test love like no other type of relationship can. It requires constant communication and a desire to continually create your relationship, using the only real tool you have that is your words. In another word communication is the most important thing but I do believe that it is not only for long distance relationships but also for every single relationships that is there.
Now, comes another question sometimes ; Is it worth it?
Well I think any person worth having is worth waiting a few years for. If you both have something really special then take the plunge. You’d be surprised at how well a long distance relationship can work out. Granted, it won’t be easy and you’ll both go through your bouts of loneliness. However, the rewards for making it through are worth every lonely second. Believe me, I’ve seen these happen.
The path of life tends to pull people in different directions. Some random turn of events can sometimes have the power to decide the fate of a couple. For instance, if a guy is being relocated across the country due to a promotion at work, and his gal gal is doing just fine in her present career, they inevitably end up going their separate ways.
Sometimes young lovers are forced to call it quits because they end up attending different colleges in different cities, states, or even continents. I’ve seen that happen too, a lot of time - let’s just say, most of the time. They tend to believe that physical space between them will affect the solidity of the relationship because of their “undying” love for each other most probably can’t surpass this seemingly gigantic obstacle and what happen next is one of them will start to feel very lonely and begin to look around for maybe at what the relationship market have to offer and I don’t deny that it sometimes happen to both parties too.
I think one of the most difficult parts of a long distance is handling the fact that you are not physically there with your significant other - I like that word. This lack of physical presence can make the whole relationship seem like an illusion, something that is so unreal I would say. I am sure that almost every person in this kind of relationship has wondered at some point about whether the relationship was actually real or just wishful thinking, a dream that would probably won’t come true. With this in mind, I think it is very important to create a presence for yourself in your partner’s life to provide a stable reality that you are a couple and that you are a part of one another. That’s to add to the - “Yes, we can do it” factor.
I’ve seen it happen before and I do believe it will work - Eventhough it’s not as easy as saying it but if a relationship have Love as its backbone and as long as the other partner feels that you completely and unconditionally love them, those doubts will not have a chance to creep in. It is up to you to make sure they know exactly how you feel about them. Tell them eventhough you’re not there - You’ll be just two steps behind.
This goes out to Carol and Dentonel
Sorry guys that I didn’t get the chance to sing this at your wedding thus I’m putting it here for you. Enjoy and have a nice weekend!
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