How many times have you heard

“Well, we met and hurmmm … we went out a few times then … things just took off from there”?

Well, maybe dozens or most of the time that is the case. Most of your friends who are in a long term relationship and most probably you yourself can easily recall the name of the bar, restaurant or coffee bean where they first met or date officially but it’s very rare anyone who can just pinpoint the defining moment when

“She’s / He’s just someone I’m seeing,”

transformed and be translucently appeared as

“My Girlfriend / Boyfriend”.

You got the vibe?

Now, crossing the dateline as some would say is something rather interesting and awkward at the same time. This usually happens in the initial first few dates that you have with this particular someone. Question arise are,

“Are we …?” or “We’re aren’t … right?”.

It can be rather tricky in a way. Of course you will come out with the idea of,

“Why not just you tell her how you feel and then see whether she feels the same way too?”.

It’s not easy too. You need the right time to ask that because sometimes you might just blew your chances away. Then you’ll say :

“Here we go again …”

What would you do? Been through this and not everytime it goes on well.

During the early stages of a relationship so to speak, I usually do not refer to my date as my girlfriend especially in the company of close friends and I supposed all of us men are like that in a way, I hope so. You wouldn’t want to look or sounds like a Lulu wouldn’t you?

And you’re friends would always assume that “Oh, this must be THAT person” and I hope they do because the not so best thing that I would want to hear is the most unanswerable-question-of-all-time-when-you-bring-your-date-who-is-not-yet-your-girlfriend :

“Who is this, Cibol?”

And you know that they would not be looking at answers

“Oh, meet Katie” – Assuming that her name is Katie

They will smile but will never be satisfied by that answer. They want more. They want to know who is Katie to me.

and will come the most confusing part of

“Damn, how should I answer this?”

If you say – She’s my girlfriend

What if she doesn’t feel like wanting to be with you?

And if you say – Nope, she’s just a friend

What if she was really into you and you might have just blow your chances by saying that.

You know what? Men do seek approval from friends as much as women do.

Why I say sometimes it’s hard? It’s because it is always punctuated by landmark moments that can make or break a budding relationship. Sometimes it got complicated. So how do we do this progress from a once or twice a week date-stage to maybe having a blog with both of you as authors? Or maybe signing a birthday card from the both of you?

Aiyo …

****Today, I just feel like giving up blogging …****