016“Are We?”
posted by cibol on January 31st, 2008
How many times have you heard
“Well, we met and hurmmm … we went out a few times then … things just took off from there”?
Well, maybe dozens or most of the time that is the case. Most of your friends who are in a long term relationship and most probably you yourself can easily recall the name of the bar, restaurant or coffee bean where they first met or date officially but it’s very rare anyone who can just pinpoint the defining moment when
“She’s / He’s just someone I’m seeing,”
transformed and be translucently appeared as
“My Girlfriend / Boyfriend”.
You got the vibe?
Now, crossing the dateline as some would say is something rather interesting and awkward at the same time. This usually happens in the initial first few dates that you have with this particular someone. Question arise are,
“Are we …?” or “We’re aren’t … right?”.
It can be rather tricky in a way. Of course you will come out with the idea of,
“Why not just you tell her how you feel and then see whether she feels the same way too?”.
It’s not easy too. You need the right time to ask that because sometimes you might just blew your chances away. Then you’ll say :
“Here we go again …”
What would you do? Been through this and not everytime it goes on well.
During the early stages of a relationship so to speak, I usually do not refer to my date as my girlfriend especially in the company of close friends and I supposed all of us men are like that in a way, I hope so. You wouldn’t want to look or sounds like a Lulu wouldn’t you?
And you’re friends would always assume that “Oh, this must be THAT person” and I hope they do because the not so best thing that I would want to hear is the most unanswerable-question-of-all-time-when-you-bring-your-date-who-is-not-yet-your-girlfriend :
“Who is this, Cibol?”
And you know that they would not be looking at answers
“Oh, meet Katie” – Assuming that her name is Katie
They will smile but will never be satisfied by that answer. They want more. They want to know who is Katie to me.
and will come the most confusing part of
“Damn, how should I answer this?”
If you say – She’s my girlfriend
What if she doesn’t feel like wanting to be with you?
And if you say – Nope, she’s just a friend
What if she was really into you and you might have just blow your chances by saying that.
You know what? Men do seek approval from friends as much as women do.
Why I say sometimes it’s hard? It’s because it is always punctuated by landmark moments that can make or break a budding relationship. Sometimes it got complicated. So how do we do this progress from a once or twice a week date-stage to maybe having a blog with both of you as authors? Or maybe signing a birthday card from the both of you?
Aiyo …
****Today, I just feel like giving up blogging …****
001: nono,
January 31st, 2008 at 8:28 pmWhy is it so hard to declare he/she is you gf/bf? ahah.. nwys, i think it is better to introduce he/she by name loor… =)
Not that it’s so hard. Initial stage you need time. Like for say, you’re dating this guy - just a date and then u invited him to come for a party at friend’s house. so that situation happens. because you and him have nothing yet. I don’t really know how to explain that. ha ha ha .. but i hope you got what i mean.
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003: lynnx01,
January 31st, 2008 at 9:36 pmWhy wanna give up blogging? Disappointments?
I don’t know, just that - Just a feeling, not that I want to do it anyway.
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004: melbie,
January 31st, 2008 at 10:51 pmhow about “at this moment, we’re getting to know each other .. we just met la … ” hehe ..
About that giving up blogging .. oh, I know the feeling hehe … it will pass by eventually 
unless cibol doesn’t have the passion for words.. which we all know is very untrue… hehe
Passion … Hopefully it will
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005: angeles,
February 1st, 2008 at 1:00 ammmmm…Just say ‘my friend’, tak boleh ar?
give up blogging? reason? disappointed with someone? something? O.o
alahai cik abang, no nid give up wan.. just take a break… also, no nid to blog everyday wan… okie? 
No la, nothing personal. Yeah, maybe I should just take a break.
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006: suituapui,
February 1st, 2008 at 9:03 amGee! Is this the mating season or what? Or are u just on heat…or being horny??? See all ur friends kahwin…u getting desperate kah? Ha ha ha ha ha!!! Don’t worry, cibol! It will come when it comes - all fated! Ya…take a break! Come to Sibu and we go for babi hutan or giant ketam! Itu baru buat gatal nanti! LOL!
Ha ha ha .. you actually make me go speechless with this comment.
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007: heldahgal,
February 1st, 2008 at 9:46 amya la cibol…. ur last few blogs are so lovey dovey :P…. he3…..
Now I regret posting it up. Ha ha ha
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008: bongkersz,
February 1st, 2008 at 11:53 amshe’s my bitch… she’s my master, i am her slave. muahahahahahahaa!
ha ha ha .. Reminds me of that “I’m A Slave For You”
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010: AceOne118,
February 1st, 2008 at 6:16 pmWhat happenned? This blog baru open wan wor!
Ya lor .. you very seldom visit me here ma. Heartbroken liw
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011: clement,
February 1st, 2008 at 8:57 pmha ha ha ha, in heat?
What heat lerr?? U back in sibu ledi ah? When you want to jia me makan??
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012: Alvin Lim,
February 2nd, 2008 at 1:45 pmi sort of get what u mean. thats why i always intro my female fren as “friend”. hahaha. don wan to explain too much 
Yeah, I guess so. She’s a friend is more appropriate. Don’t use “She’s just a friend”. You might blow your chances. Complicated eh?
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013: cellobella,
February 2nd, 2008 at 5:00 pmHi Cibol,
Thanks for visiting my site - you’ve been on my reading list for a little while - after I found you on entrecard…
CB
Hi, thanks dropping by. It seems like entrecard is doing a great job. Will drop by your site regularly. I’ll add you to my blogroll then. Have a blessed weekend
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